Do you ever find yourself drained, crabby or stressed after being around negative or toxic people? I have found that simply moving away from the source of negativity does wonders for me.
What is a negative or toxic person you ask? Well, they tend to be people who have issues with maintaining relationships. They judge others, dwell on the past, they can never be wrong and tend to be brown-nosers.
These types of people like to be the center of attention, even if it is negative attention. They will do anything to get you to pay attention to them and to see their point of view, even if they tell you lies or fib to you. They also tend to leverage themselves into a position (sometimes as an “expert”) where people have but no choice but to pay attention to them.
Negative or toxic people tend to either stir up drama or feed off of others, and at times will even help it to manifest. They like to withhold information that can be a benefit to others. They also like to blame others for their circumstances.
Do you know anyone who fits this bill?? A relative? A co-worker? A hair-dresser? A class-mate? A stage mother? A sports parent? A drinking buddy?
It is nearly impossible to avoid negative or toxic people all together, especially at social gatherings, in the workplace, at school or church functions, or at your child’s extracurricular activities. Did you know that physical the physical proximity of a negative or toxic person can affect you? With that said, I have found it extremely effective to distance myself physically from such people. And by distancing I mean at least twenty feet or more. In cramped quarters, that isn’t always possible but in the least, it is helpful to avoid as much contact as possible with negative or toxic people. Give yourself permission to change where you are sitting, stand on a different side of the room, or take frequent breaks from the crowd if need be. Sure, it can come off looking anti-social or snobby, but I have let go of being worried about what other people think as my own energy, or how I feel physically, outweighs other people’s opinions. And really, if it is a negative person that one is trying to avoid, that person isn’t giving you a second (positive) thought anyway. Right?
Give distancing a try and let me know how it works for you. Do you notice a difference? What was the situation that you were in and how did you make space between you and a toxic person or crowd? You can reply in the comments section below or join the discussion on Facebook at: https://www.facebook.com/HealRiseUpandAscend