As an Empath, you may find that you are more productive when you wake up early before others do, or stay up late after others have gone to rest. As Empaths, we can feel the energy of all living things, obviously this includes people. And though the whole world doesn’t really sleep all at the same time, people who live with us, or who live near us are generally in a state of rest at the same time. When those near us are at rest, so is their energy and therefore an Empath can use this as an opportunity to revitalize their energy and to actively accomplish things. This can be especially helpful if you live with multiple people, or in a densely populated area. You may feel that you are able to get more things done and feel more at peace while doing them.
Are you an Empath? An Empath can feel and take on other people’s (both positive and negative) emotions, energy and, or, physical symptoms, and have an innate ability to intuitively feel and perceive others. Empaths are emotional sponges and have a higher sensitivity to outside stimuli such as sounds, crowds, and hectic environments. Empaths are gifted at reading body language and energy and have the intuitive gift of Clairempathy. You can read about the traits of being an Empath by following this link: https://www.amberbytner.com/empath
In recent years Halotherapy (or Salt Therapy) has grown into one of the most popular forms of alternative therapy. The word “halotherapy” derives from the Greek halos, which is to say, ‘salt’. Thus ‘halotherapy’ means therapy which makes use of salt. Halotherapy is an all-natural, drug-free and holistic therapy that is done in an environment made to recreate a natural salt cave. It uses a combination of Himalayan salt and a halo-generator technology to maintain adequate salt levels in the room. The Himalayan salt used is a natural antiseptic and antibacterial property that reduces inflammation and helps open up breathing passages. For Empaths, salt can be a huge grounding and energy clearing tool, too!
Many people are turning to Halotherapy for its multitude of benefits. It is also safe and extremely beneficial for children! Salt Therapy as it can assist with:
Depression, (including postpartum)
Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD)
…. And much more…
Check to see if you have a salt room close to where you live and give it a try!
Empaths can rub people the wrong way simply because, without intending to, they can energetically mirror back the entire inner angst and lack of personal integrity of another, exposing an unwillingness to face their own dishonesty, greed, hatred, and desire to hide from the truth as well as from themselves. This can happen completely outside the Empath’s conscious awareness as they tend to keep sending out light which can irritate another’s demons while being perplexed at the reactions. It can literally drive those who thrive on inauthenticity out of their minds.
Are you an Emapth? An Empath can feel and take on other people’s (both positive and negative) emotions, energy and, or, physical symptoms, and have an innate ability to intuitively feel and perceive others. Empaths are emotional sponges and have a higher sensitivity to outside stimuli such as sounds, crowds, and hectic environments. Empaths are gifted at reading body language and energy and have the intuitive gift of Clairempathy. You can read about the traits of being an Empath here.
Scapegoating can apply in any arena where people socialize. Scapegoating selects the most sensitive and emotionally intelligent person within the system, and your only fault as the scapegoat, is being mentally and emotionally strong enough the bear the burden of such abuse. Being the scapegoat means that either consciously or unconsciously others have formed a discrediting campaign against you and have targeted you for shame, blame, rejection, humiliation, and abuse, to avoid looking at themselves and their own problems. As the scapegoat, you pose a threat to the system because you see through the dysfunction.
It is important to note that there is research that suggests that people who are mentally ill or emotionally unstable are far more likely to scapegoat others. And those who attack/target/pick the scapegoat do so in order to release their pent up frustrations and deep feelings of abandonment, ‘toxic shame’, or self-hatred.
Scapegoating does have biblical origins and refers to a goat set free into the wilderness to carry away the sins of the group on its small shoulders. It was not killed like its counterpart, the blood sacrifice. So, although it may not feel this way, there is freedom in being scapegoated.
People who are scapegoated tend to have the following traits. Do you relate to most, if not all, on the list?
You are Highly Empathic – You have an ability to passionately understand, recognize, connect with, and share the emotions of others. And although you may be able to feel empathetic, that doesn’t automatically mean that you are an empath.
You are an independent person.
You are disrespected and discredited by those who should be your equal.
You are held to a different standard.
You are highly sensitive, including to other people’s energy.
You are left out of events, and/or conversations.
You are punished for telling the truth – Anytime you speak the truth, you are rebuked.
You are resourceful.
You are very creative – Empaths experience unfamiliar and often powerful emotions, which can make them more creative than most.
You display honesty, vulnerability and have emotional strength.
You don’t conform to family, workplace or system rules or patterns just for the sake of doing so.
You point out issues that you feel need to be addressed.
You question authority – You don’t question authority because you are trying to be difficult, but rather because you see through a flawed system.
You receive little or no praise, support or encouragement for your accomplishments.
You tend to be codependent – A codependent is someone whose feelings, thoughts, and actions revolve around another person. Empaths can have codependent tendencies but not all codependents are empaths.
You tend to have a higher frequency/higher vibration than of those around you.
Your character or reputation tends to get tarnished by others who speak poorly of you instead of facing their own dysfunction.
Being a scapegoat can be a rough role to play, but no matter how tough it is, it is a lot better than fitting in with the people who are doing the attacking. In order to heal from scapegoating, we need to face our past, acknowledge it, then take our focus off of it and forgive anyone we need to forgive, including ourselves. (Remember that forgiveness is about setting you free.) Let go of everything (and even everyone) that no longer serves your highest good. Acknowledge the patters, understand where they came from, and make changes to do better every day so that such patterns are not carried forward to others generations or to the people around you.
Someone taking a dislike to another is a completely normal and acceptable part of life. We are all different and there will always be some people we do not get along with, or who do not get along with us, however do you know that some people will take an automatic dislike to an empath simply because of their vibration or frequency? We empaths tend to have a higher vibration. This happens for a handful of reasons:
– We use different techniques to cleanse our energy because we pick up energy that isn’t ours along the way.
– We are aware of who and what drains our energy and we avoid it, or don’t absorb it, when possible.
– And we tend to make positive changes to our mind and bodies regarding how we care for them and what we put into them.
You might notice that you are disliked or rejected by those who need to be around people with lower vibrations. Similarly to how we empaths prefer to NOT be around people who full of negativity, there are other people who cannot stand to be around those of us who have a higher vibration. You might also find that sometimes low-vibrational people try to bring you down and extinguish your happiness when given the opportunity to do so. You need to remember that not everyone is ready to raise their vibration or even wants to.
My best advice is to not lower your vibration in order to fit in or to be liked. Keep spreading your light and come to terms with the fact that when you come across people like this, they aren’t your people. Wish them well, thank them for their part in your journey and move on.
Someone taking a dislike to another is a completely normal and acceptable part of life. We are all different and there will always be some people we do not get along with, or who do not get along with us, however do you know that some people will take an automatic dislike to an empath simply because you are being too quiet, or too standoffish in a social setting.
Empaths tend to detach when we start to feel overloaded in social situations, especially if there is a lot going on, a lot of noise, stimuli and/or a crowd of people. We may get quiet or seem a bit standoffish and many around us can wrongly interpret our behavior as being snobbish. Those around us who are more insecure in nature can become offended and take our quietness as a form of disrespect and in return, take a dislike towards us, or at the very least, comment behind our backs. Because others don’t feel what an Empath feels, it is difficult for them to understand.
My advice is to make appearances at events and places that you feel comfortable with and don’t feel that you need to stay until the very end. Also, protect your energy prior to going to a social gathering and re-protect yourself as the event goes on. You may also find that certain crystals help you. I find that Black Tourmaline is helpful for protecting my energy and that selenite works well for me for cleansing my energy. (Some people suggest using amethyst for energy protection, but I found that just drew more “stuff” in for me as amethyst assist with intuition.) You can work with Archangel Michael to help you to shield. You can also set intentions before going to gatherings and events. I use something like: “Please only allow me to absorb any energies that I am meant to heal or to take on.” (You can use what works best for you.)
Empaths are sponges and we pick up the energy from others everywhere. We pick up energy at work, at the store, at a stoplight, from each person we interact with, to what we watch on T.V. or listen to on the radio. The energy you pick up accumulates in your body throughout the day. Because of this, it is important to give yourself permission to pause, reset, and re-tune in the middle of the day. Your mid-day break doesn’t have to be a long one, or consist of anything that is too complex. Your break can be a short walk outside, a quick meditation, or even time with an animal or pet.
This is a tip that I learned as an Empath, but you don’t need to be an Empath in order to benefit from it. We all pick up energy throughout our day. Empaths are sponges and pick up the energy from others. Empaths pick up energy at work, at the store, while sitting in traffic, as well as from each person you interact with, and even from what we watch on T.V. or listen to on the radio. The energy you pick up accumulates in your body and can lead to fatigue, physical aches and pains and even anxiety. A quick way to cleanse and get rid of this accumulated energy is to immerse yourself in water or to take a shower. (Of course a dip in the ocean or a mineral spring is also nice, but not necessarily easily accessible to everyone.)
If you choose to take a bath, you may wish to add sea salt, Epsom salt, and/or essential oils to the water. If it is a shower that you prefer, you can visualize the water from the shower head being a gold or white light washing over your body. (I find this to be re-charging.) Then, as the water runs off your body you can visualize energy that isn’t yours, (or any energy that is negative) washing away down the drain. You can also ask out loud that “any energy that isn’t yours, or which is not serving your highest good, be washed away.” It is as simple as that.
Go toward people, groups and activities that make you feel good. Just as someone draining you negatively affects your energy, so being around happy people that make you feel comfortable will have a positive effect.
In a work or professional situation, this can mean, seeking out coworkers whose energy you really like and finding ways to spend more time together. Coordinate lunch or coffee breaks, schedule a video chat, or getting together for after-work drinks. Your social circle, especially in the workplace, does not need to be a large one, as quality over quantity tends to prevail.
Seeking out and tuning in to people who leave you feeling energized makes it that much easier to protect yourself from the influences of those who don’t.
Florida Water (Agua de Florida) is an all-purpose blessing in a bottle. And though it has been around for over 200 years, I only discovered Florida Water back in 2016. You can use it for removing heavy vibrations and you can incorporate it in things like your laundry, household cleaning, as well as in baths. It is a great tool for attracting, grounding, purifying, protecting and cleansing.
What is Florida Water?
Despite the name, Florida Water is an alcohol-based, not water based, unisex cologne that was first introduced in America in the early 1800s by New York City perfumer Robert Murray. It was, and still is, formulated with citrus essences, clove, lavender, and other herbal and floral extracts. The founding company, Murray & Lanman advertised the cologne as “The Richest and Most Popular of All Perfumes.”
It was given the name “Florida water” because the Fountain of Youth is said to be somewhere in Florida, and in 1885, famed illustrator George du Maurier designed the Florida Water label, inspired by the search for the Fountain of Youth.
In 1936 Florida Water was mentioned in the newly-published novel at the time “Gone with the Wind”. Scarlett O’Hara was told by her mother that Florida Water was one of the only things “a lady may accept from a gentleman”.
Florida Water has been used over the years to tone the skin, freshen the air, calm the nerves, relieve headaches, reduce fevers, prevent infection, and soothe an itching scalp. Today, the Murray & Lanman brand of Florida Water is the most widely used, and the company claims it is still made with the original formula.
How to Use Florida Water.
Florida water can be bathed in, or used as a cologne. Add a few drops to a bath to rid yourself of negative energy and encourage protection; after a bath (or shower), dab some Florida Water on your head, neck, heart, and feet for protection and a feeling of balance.
Apply a small amount to a bug bite or sunburn for relief.
Ease aching joints and muscles by rubbing Florida Water on the problem area(s).
Energetically (and literally) clean things around your home including your floors, counters, work space, desk, in your laundry machine and your crystals (if you use them), and really any surface that can tolerate water. You can put Florida Water in an atomizer bottle, you can add it to a bucket of water, or you can put it in a bowl and use it straight.
Energetically cleanse yourself with Florida water by spraying it around you or putting a bit on your wrists.
Florida water can assist a person when they feel anxious, depressed or sad, as the scent has a relaxing effect.
Florida water can be used as a floor wash, just add a few capfuls to a bucket of water.
Florida water has been known to be used as a substitute for Holy Water.
Headaches (due to excitement or nervousness) can be relieved by applying Florida Water to the temples and forehead.
To alleviate fever symptoms, apply compresses of Florida Water to the forehead and abdomen.
Similar to Palo Santo oil or sage, Florida Water can be used to remove negative or heavy vibrations (energy) from a space.
Some use Florida Water for Manifestation.
Use it before or after shaving to soften your skin.
When blessing and cleansing a new home, use Florida Water to anoint your floors, windows and doorways for protection, prosperity and luck.
Just a note: Florida Water is flammable, so always be mindful when using it around candles or an open flame.
Get or Make your Own.
You can make your own Florida Water. There are a variety of recipes on the internet using both herbs and essential oils, depending on which recipe you try. All recipes will call for vodka. I have heard on more than one occasion that it doesn’t matter the quality, brand or price of the vodka as the end result will all be the same.
If you are interested in purchasing it, you can purchase Florida Water at drug stores and supermarkets and metaphysical shops. You can also find it online. I like to purchase mine directly from Lanman & Kemp, Barclay & Co. at: https://floridawater.com/
An Empath can feel and take on other people’s (both positive and negative) emotions, energy and, or, physical symptoms, and have an innate ability to intuitively feel and perceive others. Empaths are emotional sponges and have a higher sensitivity to outside stimuli such as sounds, crowds, and hectic environments. Empaths are gifted at reading body language and energy and have the intuitive gift of Clairempathy.
An Empath is similar to being an HSP (Highly Sensitive Person), however HSPs don’t absorb the thoughts and emotions of others and don’t get the same hunches that empaths do. Most empaths fall into the category of HSP, but not all HSPs are empaths.
It can be hard to navigate as an Empath in today’s world. Many empaths may experience things like panic attacks, depression and/or chronic fatigue. If not careful, they can binge on things like food, drugs or alcohol, and more likely than not, Empaths can exhibit many other physical symptoms that defy traditional diagnosis in the field of western medicine. When I first discovered that I was an Empath, I found it challenging to find information on the topic, as well as to connect with others who could assist me.
Do you have any of these Empath traits? If so, how many?
You are a problem solver
You are drained by negative people, crowds or busy places
You are drawn to holistic, metaphysical or naturopathic solutions and remedies
You are highly creative and/or have an extremely rich imagination
You are more aware of suffering in the world than others
You can feel things before they happen
You can see things from many points of view
You can sense the “vibe” in a room or feel the “atmosphere” around you
You desire quiet time, peace and solitude
You don’t like a hectic environment or to be rushed
You don’t like conflict
You feel drawn to help others
You feel like you don’t fit in
You feel people’s energy more than listen to their words
You feel sick or shaky around certain people
You feel the emotions of others
You feel the illnesses, aching, pains or physical symptoms of others when you are near them
You feel the need to support those who you see as being intimidated, bullied or who are suffering
You find crowds to be overwhelming
You find it hard to be around clutter
You find it hard to watch violence or tragedy on television, in movies or on the news
You find strict guidelines, procedures, and regimens to be stifling
You find that people, even strangers, come to you to divulge their life issues and problems or ask you for advice
You have a calming effect on other people
You have a deep connection and love of animals
You have a hard time around inauthentic people
You have a hard time making eye contact with fake people
You have a high sensitivity to bright lights, sounds, smells, or other sensations
You have a keen eye for beauty where others don’t see it
You have experienced sudden, overwhelming emotions when you’re in public
You loathe dishonesty and have a deep desire for truth
You need time to recharge
You notice that weather affects your mood
You sense when someone is not telling the truth or when you are getting partial truth.
You take comfort in nature
You take on the energy of others
You tend to isolate yourself
Your intuition is very accurate
You feel a deep need to make the world a better place.
Supposedly only 1 to 2 percent of the population are Emapths and they bring a lot of heart and care to the world and feel things very deeply. It is important for an Empath to learn how to protect their own energy, how to re-charge, and how to practice self-care as they navigate in today’s world. Below are some Empath-related resources that I found to be helpful when I discovered that I was an Empath:
Judith Orloff MD – Orloff is the NY Times bestselling author of The Empath’s Survival Guide: Life Strategies for Sensitive People, Thriving as an Empath, and Emotional Freedom. Dr. Orloff is a psychiatrist, an empath and intuitive healer, and is on the UCLA Psychiatric Clinical Faculty.
By Yvonne Perry – Whose Stuff Is This?: Finding Freedom from the Negative Thoughts, Feelings, and Energy of Those Around You
By Julie B. Rosenshein – Parenting the Highly Sensitive Child: A Guide for Parents & Caregivers of ADHD, Indigo and Highly Sensitive Children